
As the holiday season approaches, many children arrive with excitement, stories, and big feelings. Some talk about Christmas morning and what Santa might bring. Others share family traditions or cultural celebrations. Children naturally bring the stories from home into school, and in our Montessori-based environments, they’re invited to share these experiences while learning how to be in community with peers who may believe differently. The classroom becomes a place where respect is practiced and belonging matters.
In recent years, we’ve seen more young children eager to repeat what they’ve been told about Santa from home. When they voice these ideas, they aren’t being unkind; they’re processing something new and trying to understand where it fits. As adults, it helps to remember that very young children aren’t yet able to hold belief-related information quietly or navigate nuance for the sake of someone else’s feelings. Sharing aloud is how they make meaning, test ideas, and seek connection. Recognizing this helps us support community rather than expecting children to manage what they aren’t developmentally ready to hold on their own.
Young children naturally live in imaginative thinking. They create meaning, test ideas, and explore big questions long before adults step in to clarify the world. At this age, superheroes, princesses, holiday figures, talking animals, and cultural stories all feel equally possible because children haven’t yet differentiated pretend, symbolic, and real. They aren’t analyzing or comparing stories; they’re simply processing information out loud as it arrives.
Developmentally aligned education doesn’t require adults to manufacture fantasy or script pretend play; childhood already includes it. Because of this, we can’t expect children to approach holiday figures with adult logic when other imaginative worlds in their lives are still held as fully true and alive. Consistency matters, and childhood unfolds most peacefully when imagination and reality are allowed to develop in rhythm rather than collision.
Families in our community hold different beliefs and traditions. Some include Santa as a joyful part of childhood. Some treat Santa as a seasonal story or symbol. Others don’t include Santa at all for cultural, personal, or religious reasons. All of these choices are valid, and the goal is never to determine which approach is correct. Instead, we aim to help children speak about their own traditions without correcting or dismantling someone else’s.
Parents can support this at home with simple language that reinforces respect:
“Every family celebrates differently.”
“That’s what our family believes.”
“People believe different things.”
These responses help children honor their own experience while recognizing and protecting the experiences of others.
As children grow, their understanding naturally shifts. What feels fully real at three becomes meaningful in new ways later on. For some families, traditions like reading Yes, Virginia, There Is a Santa Claus help that transition unfold gradually, allowing the story to evolve rather than end abruptly. No deception is required, and wonder remains intact.
Preparing children to be in community doesn’t depend on preserving a single story. What matters is nurturing childhood, honoring imagination, and helping children learn to share space with others respectfully. When children learn to live alongside difference with curiosity and kindness, community becomes something deeper than celebration — it becomes belonging.
If you’re curious how we approach childhood, community, and development in practice, you can explore our lab schools here.



